INTJs live in the world of ideas and strategic planning. They value intelligence, knowledge, and efficiency, and typically have high standards in these regards. To a somewhat lesser extent, they have similar expectations of others. INTJs focus their energy on observing the world, and generating ideas and possibilities. It is not easy for the INTJ to express their internal images, insights, and abstractions. The internal form of the INTJ’s thoughts and concepts is highly individualized, and is not readily translatable into a form that others will understand. However, the INTJ is driven to translate their ideas into a structured plan, system or organization that is usually readily explainable, rather than to do a direct translation of their thoughts. They are the supreme strategists – always scanning available ideas and concepts and weighing them against their current strategy, to plan for every conceivable contingency.
Strength : Imagining
INTJs perceive abstract and complex images of the world, allowing them to see the big picture and the deepest patterns. These images are the result of unconscious associations of various lived impressions, making them both transcendent and inexplicable. This is why it is common for them to have visions of what is going to happen … that turn out to be right. Their intuition allows them to pierce the surface of reality and thus reach the hidden meaning of each thing or situation. Thus, conscious of the meaning and consequences of each of their actions, they are able to move precisely towards the vision they wish to achieve. In the ocean of possibilities and information represented by the chaos of life, INTJs know how to find a higher order. This goes back to the root of things and allows them, as well as others, to find a meaningful direction to follow in order to fulfill themselves and find (or at least get closer to) lasting happiness.
Immature use of this strength makes its users very stubborn, blind to the infeasibility of their ambitions and locked in a world of ideas never becoming real.
Developement Point : Experiencing
INTJs hate having to engage with the world, especially when experiences are likely to be unpleasant. They will be terribly uncomfortable in environments where there is noise, dirt, danger, heat, etc.
INTJs are constantly in their heads, trapped in a world built by their own imagination. This world is so blatantly abstract that they find themselves extremely far from an objective, factual understanding of reality. Moreover, they care so much about their world and their own goals that they develop, over time, a fear of having to look at the reality of things—a reality that could call into question the intense daydreaming in their minds. This unwillingness to connect with reality is regularly the cause of their failure. If the visions they have of their future can come close to perfection in terms of detail, everything will fall apart when they forget, one too many times, to check the feasibility or truthfulness of their ideas. These individuals are those with the most will and potential, but also those who will miss the most opportunities.
This can have a significant impact on their daily happiness. In addition to seeing some of their dreams fade away, they will never really enjoy the present moment. By spending the majority of their lives thinking about “later,” they will never (or often too late), engage in the unique experiences that life has to offer. They will soon become aware of the phenomenal amount of time they have wasted on never really living. By realizing this, they will be able to adopt the opposite behavior by taking advantage—without any control—of anything that might make them enjoy the present moment, such as alcohol, drugs, sex, and potentially abuse these.
Their inability to be aware of the reality of things also explains their tendency to be clumsy, especially when they bring experiences to others. In a relationship with them, they may quickly become controlling and demanding because of their willingness to bend reality to the perfectionism of their minds. It is also for this reason that they will hate to fail in their performance. They tend to have very high standards of achievement and will often be very afraid of failing—whether at work, in relationships, in artistic or athletic performances or simply of not being their best. This is due to their idea that someone is evaluated on these actions, and therefore if they want to be loved, valued, and gain the loyalty of others, they must perform perfectly.
However, INTJs are also the ones who can bring themselves the best experiences. Indeed, once their weakness is translated into a state of total consciousness, you will see them be the most charming people you have ever known, performing at a very high level and making their dreams come true.
Have prepared a detailed plan to impress their crush. Brag about their latest success story. Compliment their crush on their intelligence. Enter silent panic mode if the date doesn’t go as planned and end up being spontaneous and taking great initiatives, not realizing how seductive that is.
INTJs need someone who can debate in depth with them and maintain decent arguments without ever being offended. Someone they can learn from. Someone who respects their need for time alone, won’t push them to do things they don’t want to do, and won’t be non-compliant with social manners.
Once in a relationship, INTJs can seem outwardly cold but are inwardly a jumble of feelings. Act like they don’t care, but they do. Analyze their partner’s every move. Always straight-forward when they feel something is wrong in the relationship and love their partner’s honesty as well. Always know what they want and what their partner should do in every situation. Have long-term projects for both of them and will make them happen.
Sources : Birdy, Personalitypage
Always try to change the way you look at things, even if it suits them at first. Determined to help you grow as an individual, but also to bring fun and spontaneity in your life. Gentle and caring if you’re tired, fun and provoking if you’re in a good mood (which means someone ready to be challenged for them).