Personality

INFPs are focused on making the world a better place for people. Their primary goal is to find out their meaning in life. What is their purpose? How can they best serve humanity in their lives? They are idealists and perfectionists, who drive themselves hard in their quest for achieving the goals they have identified for themselves. They rely heavily on their intuitions to guide them and to understand people’s perspectives and feelings. Although they may be reserved in expressing emotion, they have a very deep well of caring and are genuinely interested in people. This sincerity is sensed by others, making the INFP a valued friend and confidante. INFPs are flexible and laid-back, until one of their values is violated.

Strength : Valuing

Continuously exploring themselves in search of who they are and what they really want in life, INFPs manage to establish an intimate and inexplicable connection with who they really are, how they feel, what they love, and what is important to them. In addition to being authentic, they have an innate sense of what is right and wrong in any situation. This allows them to constantly act in accordance with who they are and their own code of ethics, which they respect more than anything else. In a world where keeping quiet and fading into the crowd is the simplest way to be accepted by all, INFPs become the anchor. Without their fierce independence, the world would lose its humanity and gradually drift into injustice, cruelty, or intolerance. Acting as society’s moral compass, they inspire us to reconnect to who we really are and act for the well-being of all.

On the other hand, immature use of this strength makes its users selfish and irrational through subjectivity. Causing them to refuse to conform to universally-accepted values, and to be overly sensitive and emotional.

Developement Point : Pragmatism

INFPs want to have power and influence in the world but often do not know how to do so. In order to protect their purely personal values from external judgements that could influence their reputation, they prefer not to talk about them and to remain discreet about them. They are uncomfortable expressing themselves because of a constant fear of bad external judgements. They are aware that, in a debate, for example, everything they say will be judged, analyzed, and that others will surely try to criticize all the arguments put forward. Consequently, they will speak only when they are sure of themselves; for example, when they have many sources to validate their argument, or not at all. This sensitivity to judgment during conversations is also on their side: they also judge what others are saying and will often be the first to ask the sources of such statements. This tendency of judgment and fear of evaluation greatly lengthens their thought processes. At work, they can quickly become demotivated in the face of a heavy workload because they know it will take a long time to get into an effective thinking process. They will never admit it, but their reputation is extremely important to them. They like people to have a good image of them. They don’t like competition or other environments where judgments are the norm because this risks their reputations. They will feel comfortable in an environment where they feel respected and are considered intelligent and successful, even if it is not necessarily the truth.

This is true unless they develop this weakness. In that case, INFPs can be more capable than average of doing things, like running a business, for example. No matter what projects they embark on, their efficiency and courage will be such that nothing can stop them in their success, whatever their definition of success is.

Relationships

INFPs are nervous when their crush is around. Might get the courage to talk to them, hoping they’ll accept their quirks. Ask them strange questions, blush in the cutest way, and once comfortable, become very playful and lively to the point their crush doesn’t even recognize them. But there’s still so much to learn.

INFPs need someone who fully accepts who they are and who appreciates their eccentricities and finds meaning in it all. This is even better if they have common interests. They need someone who helps them face their responsibilities. Someone who harmonizes, understands and identifies with them, whatever the INFPs’ mood. (Also, +1 if they have chocolate.)

Once in a relationship, INFPs are slow to share with their partner the depth of their principles and beliefs, but they will do so once their partner have gained their trust. Demonstrate not only acceptance, but also a genuine interest in INFPs’ core values. They will demonstrate unwavering loyalty, care and open-mindedness to them with unprecedented sensitivity and warmth. Their goal is to make their dreams of a perfect relationship come true.

Sources : Birdy, Personalitypage