Personality

INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their istincts and intuitions. INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations, they are natural nurturers; patient, devoted and protective. INFJs are concerned for people’s feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They get “feelings” about things and some INFJs even report experiences of a psychic nature. INFJs themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized, this is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it.

Strength : Imagining

INFJs perceive abstract and complex images of the world, allowing them to see the big picture and the deepest patterns. These images are the result of unconscious associations of various lived impressions, making them both transcendent and inexplicable. This is why it is common for them to have visions of what is going to happen … that turn out to be right. Their intuition allows them to pierce the surface of reality and thus reach the hidden meaning of each thing or situation. Thus, conscious of the meaning and consequences of each of their actions, they are able to move precisely towards the vision they wish to achieve. In the ocean of possibilities and information represented by the chaos of life, INFJs know how to find a higher order. This goes back to the root of things and allows them, as well as others, to find a meaningful direction to follow in order to fulfill themselves and find (or at least get closer to) lasting happiness.

Immature use of this strength makes its users very stubborn, blind to the infeasibility of their ambitions and locked in a world of ideas never becoming real.

Developement Point : Experiencing

INFJs hate having to engage with the world, especially when experiences are likely to be unpleasant. They will be terribly uncomfortable in environments where there is noise, dirt, danger, heat, etc.

INFJs are constantly in their heads, trapped in a world built by their own imagination. This world is so blatantly abstract that they find themselves extremely far from an objective, factual understanding of reality. Moreover, they care so much about their world and their own goals that they develop, over time, a fear of having to look at the reality of things—a reality that could call into question the intense daydreaming in their minds. This unwillingness to connect with reality is regularly the cause of their failure. If the visions they have of their future can come close to perfection in terms of detail, everything will fall apart when they forget, one too many times, to check the feasibility or truthfulness of their ideas. These individuals are those with the most will and potential, but also those who will miss the most opportunities.

This can have a significant impact on their daily happiness. In addition to seeing some of their dreams fade away, they will never really enjoy the present moment. By spending the majority of their lives thinking about “later,” they will never (or often too late), engage in the unique experiences that life has to offer. They will soon become aware of the phenomenal amount of time they have wasted on never really living. By realizing this, they will be able to adopt the opposite behavior by taking advantage—without any control—of anything that might make them enjoy the present moment, such as alcohol, drugs, sex, and potentially abuse these.

Their inability to be aware of the reality of things also explains their tendency to be clumsy, especially when they bring experiences to others. In a relationship with them, they may quickly become controlling and demanding because of their willingness to bend reality to the perfectionism of their minds. It is also for this reason that they will hate to fail in their performance. They tend to have very high standards of achievement and will often be very afraid of failing—whether at work, in relationships, in artistic or athletic performances or simply of not being their best. This is due to their idea that someone is evaluated on these actions, and therefore if they want to be loved, valued, and gain the loyalty of others, they must perform perfectly.

However, INFJs are also the ones who can bring themselves the best experiences. Indeed, once their weakness is translated into a state of total consciousness, you will see them be the most charming people you have ever known, performing at a very high level and making their dreams come true.

Relationships

Want to talk to their crush but don’t want to embarrass them. Avoid them and look at them when they don’t see them. Concerned about how they appear to their crush but may show very subtle and thoughtful signs of affection. Slowly open up and try to dig deep to analyze their crush. Aim for an authentic and meaningful relationship with them.

INFJs need someone very passionate and compassionate, knowing who they really are and what they’re fighting for. Someone unpredictable, charming, and intelligent, with whom meaningful conversations can be pursued. Someone who accepts their need to get away from external stimuli to recharge their batteries, but above all, someone who accepts their true self behind their many layers.

Once in a relationship, INFJs aim for the most meaningful, fruitful and lasting relationships. Listen to their partner attentively, understand them better than themselves, analyze their emotions while absorbing them, and in the end become their most reliable friend, confidant and romantic lover. They might do everything for their partner, but they will disappear from their life if they betray them and never come back.

Sources : Birdy, Personalitypage