ESTPs are outgoing, straight-shooting types. Enthusiastic and excitable, ESTPs are “doers” who live in the world of action. Blunt, straight-forward risk-takers, they are willing to plunge right into things and get their hands dirty. They live in the here-and-now, and place little importance on introspection or theory. The look at the facts of a situation, quickly decide what should be done, execute the action, and move on to the next thing. They’re fast-moving, fast-talking people who have an appreciation for the finer things in life. They love to have fun, and are fun people to be around. They can sometimes be hurtful to others without being aware of it, as they generally do not know and may not care about the effect their words have on others. It’s not that they don’t care about people, it’s that their decision-making process does not involve taking people’s feelings into account. They make decisions based on facts and logic.
Strength : Experiencing
ESTPs are the most anchored in the reality of the moment. They are constantly aware of what is happening and how things are happening. Knowing the reality of things also means knowing the most exciting things to do. Indeed, they love to engage in life’s most exciting sensory experiences, fascinated by the sensations they bring. Their need for new adventures can be expressed through the desire to try new dishes, discover new countries, practice sports (sometimes in competition), take roadtrips, or in general, any sensational experience (with dubious security). But living life is also making life happen, and these users are the masters when it comes to creating the moment. Getting noticed is routine, especially for the extroverted, driven by the desire to make every moment the best. In addition to bringing others back to the purest reality of things, ESTPs reconnect the people around them with the simple beauty of the present moment by teaching them to live it fully.
Immature use of this strength can lead the individual to constantly seek instant gratification, preventing them from focusing on a plan for the future. It can also manifest in the desire to constantly impress others, or in various addictions.
Developement Point : Conceptualizing
ESTPs can be unable to project themselves into plans for the future and thus limits their consciousness to the present moment. They do this because they know that undertaking actions that will make sense in the long run, is contrary to the idea of enjoying the experiences that life gives them in the moment. So, these individuals cannot decide what they want. It is very difficult for them to connect with their real desires. Because of this, they often refuse to settle for a single choice because they know that the chances this choice is the wrong one are high. Thus, their opinions are therefore constantly changing. Nevertheless, deep down inside, they want to find out who they are, what their purpose is and what their true desires are. That is why, when they think they have found what they love, they will rush to it in the hope of ending the long period of indecision they have just gone through. However, this happens, before they realize that it is not exactly what they wanted. Then they will go back into a phase of indecision.
This can have undesirable consequences in their love life. Indeed, it will be difficult to reassure their partners once they have learned how many conquests this ESTP has undertook. It is difficult for them to admit it, but a good part of them has a tendency towards short relationships, or even infidelity, precisely because they never know what they want and become impulsive when they think they have found it.
Professionally, they can make many commitments and sacrifices for their careers. Their bold and risky approach to the world of work can pave the way to success quickly. However, their lack of projection into the future will be their downfall, especially since they will quickly lose motivation even in the case of minor failures due to their lack of patience and their thirst for immediate results and performance.
This is true unless they develop this weakness. In that case, they will be able to distinguish between the act of enjoying the present moment and the act of making sacrifices in the service of their future. A specific goal in mind is the only thing they lack, and if they can find it and keep it, their determination combined with their keen sense of reality will help them to overcome whatever obstacles stand in their way: brace yourself for a new world.
ESTPs brazenly but charismatically show off to impress their crush. Crack their best jokes without falling short of sexual overtones. Lots of fun to be around. Provoke their crush if they don’t react enough. Become harmless so their crush realize they care, listen and understand them (but not for too long so they never get bored).
ESTPs need someone who will appreciate your tendency to live in the moment, your energy, and who will follow your initiatives to engage in fun and exciting experiences. Someone who maintains a healthy and structured environment to meet your needs but still prioritizes your safety.
Once in a relationship, ESTPs are attentive to their partner’s needs and open to serious discussion, but this is clearly not how they prefer to spend their time. Always on the lookout for exciting adventures, they seek to take their partner out of their roots and give them new experiences that they won’t easily forget. Charismatic and confident risk-takers and creators of surprises and parties. Be ready to discover a new taste of life.
Sources : Birdy, Personalitypage
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