ESTJs live in a world of facts and concrete needs. They live in the present, with their eye constantly scanning their personal environment to make sure that everything is running smoothly and systematically. They have a clear set of standards and beliefs and have no patience for individuals who do not value these systems. They value competence, efficiency and social order, and are take-charge people. They are extremely talented at devising systems and plans for action, and at being able to see what steps need to be taken to complete a specific task. ESTJs enjoy interacting with people, and like to have fun. They are extremely straight-forward and honest and put forth a lot of effort and energy in almost everything that they do.
Strength : Pragmatism
ESTJs analyze, organize the world, and plan their actions according to well-defined methods. The goal is to get to their destination in the simplest, most direct and efficient way possible. Their ability to detach themselves from their emotional and sentimental part in their decision-making makes them very objective and rational. Keeping a cool head in all situations, they know how to make tough decisions and not let themselves or others drift away. Knowing how societal hierarchies and people operate, they know how to play the game and use it to their advantage.
Comfortable in competitive environments and determined to succeed, they know how to defend themselves but also how to cooperate best with others. Truth be told, besides knowing how to achieve personal success, no one is better suited than them to lead a team or business to success and recognition.
Immature use of this strength can make them rough in debates, or too attached to their reputation, their ego, and their or other’s status.
Developement Point : Valuing
ESTJs are afraid of being immoral in their quest for results and efficiency induced by their pragmatism, especially since they are the most capable of moral abuse. This fear is caused by the potential undesirable effects of immoral behavior: rejection from society or rejection from oneself (deprivation of love).
These users hate having to consider moral issues because for them they are nothing more than a burden in their quest for success. For them, “the end justifies the means,” and you have to be willing to make sacrifices when you want to change the world. So, why bother with such abstract and unnecessary considerations as moral values? They consider that this will never help them achieve their goals, and so they stray as far as possible from them.
The only value judgements they express are often so reduced and simplified that they no longer make any moral sense. On a large basis of bad faith, they simplify any value judgment by “completely good” or “completely null,” in order to bend morality to efficiency. Making these kinds of judgments means not having to deal with the true value of things and thus saving time.
It’s in this weakness that they also hold all their emotions and the things they really care about. They contain them in order, once again, not to lose effectiveness. They think that if they started to really listen to themselves, then they wouldn’t be able to act so firmly and insensitively, and would therefore lose results. Consequently, they do not allow themselves to make mistakes, and impose this demand for quality on others as well.
Their general insensitivity will quickly be challenged if you criticize them on their morals. They will become much more emotional or take on the role of a victim, while assailing you with reasons why it is rational to do so and why you have nothing to say to them. They won’t show it, but you will probably hurt them deep down, right in their inferior function. Behind this impenetrable ego that they display lies the fragility of a weakness and doubts about their moral sense. In other words, they doubt, see, know and regret being seen by themselves and others as bad people.
With enough criticism or significant events in their lives, ESTJs can drastically change their behavior and become almost the opposite of what they have always been. By letting go of their ego, some of them will develop a strong sense of morality and demonstrate their altruism, for example, through commitments to humanitarian work.
ESTJs believe dating is serious—no time for silly subtleties. Upfront with their intentions. Demonstrate their skills and dedication by showing up at 2 a.m. to fix something without their crush asking for it and without expecting their thanks. Want their crush’s trust. Somewhat harsh but unexpectedly romantic.
ESTJs need someone practical, intelligent, and ready to handle their very direct and straightforward way of communicating, as well as their need for order and structure in their daily life. Someone who has goals, who will appreciate their effective help in achieving them, and who will demonstrate their love in return.
Once in a relationship, ESTJs become their partner’s eternal protectors. Take responsibility for all their practical needs. Have a boldness and love for their partner demonstrated by imposing very efficient solutions for each of their problems. They aim for a stable and comfortable situation with their partner, enough to start a prosperous family. Usually brutally honest and uncomfortable with their emotions, but they are very generous with time and gifts to make their partner happy every day.
Sources : Birdy, Personalitypage
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