ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. Their genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this. ENFJ’s are so externally focused that it’s especially important for them to spend time alone. ENFJ’s tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extraverted types. Their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people.
Strength : Relating
ENFJs have a keen awareness of how people around them feel and act to maintain social harmony and kindness towards one another. They understand others, what is important to them, what they like and what they hate, and they act on it. Social relationships are very important to them. They maintain them regularly by hearing from their loved ones and will always be available for them when needed. Their comfort with others usually makes the people around them feel comfortable as well. These users listen, pay attention to people’s reactions and naturally share their feelings during discussions. By wearing their emotions on their sleeves, they facilitate emotional communication and give themselves to you as a subtle way of inviting you to do the same. Their natural empathy and consideration of human relationships makes them the pillars of groups and families, through which we know the meaning and importance of peace and love.
An immature use of this strength can cause fear of rejection or fear of not being liked. This can make the user too nice, never thinking of themselves and rarely expressing their true feelings in order to please others.
Developement Point : Understanding
ENFJs usually have no interest in seeking the truth, as this is not consistent with maintaining a warm atmosphere. For this harmony, they therefore regularly sacrifice their ability to reason with logic and objectivity. They are so anxious to maintain this intimate connection with others that they fear, from the bottom of their hearts, that the emergence of truths could hurt others and thus break the precious harmony they cherish so much. Thus, the use of pure logic is rare and is often very basic because, deep down, it doesn’t matter if it is true—as long as they comfort and keep a loved one satisfied, they already have everything they want.
In order to get rid of the universally-undesirable and hard-to-swallow character of the truth, they will regularly try to bend the truth to universally-accepted value. In other words, they will try to establish a reasoning that is false but pleases everyone.
The most serious consequences of these behaviors are on themselves: they can develop a dependence on social relationships, without which they find themselves lost. Indeed, they do not have enough confidence in their ability to reason and make decisions on their own, so they will often need the opinion of others to make decisions, especially since they will be able to take advantage of this opportunity to please someone by satisfying their need.
Aware of their weakness in logic, they are afraid that others will notice this, or even worse, that others will notice that they are wrong and thus make quick judgements about their intelligence. Thus, these users, especially since their dominant function is the most communicative of functions, will quickly let you know how angry they are at your criticism of them. They are sensitive to criticism and will quickly throw the ball back to you, sometimes with impressive violence.
This complex of logic can turn into a blessing for some ENFJs. Some will do everything to make this lack of logic perfectly conscious and thus a reference in decision-making. They will surely need time to set up their logic, but it will be perfect and with enough self-confidence that they will take part in saving the world from ignorance.
Natural flirts but give their crush the priority of their attention. Know the social game and use it to put their crush at ease. Allow them to reveal themselves more than they ever did, while being more and more physical towards them to amplify the connection. Want their crush to feel cared for as proof of their love for them.
ENFJs need someone with a deep personality that they show only to them. Someone who is very intense in their values, cultivating uncommon passions. Someone surprising and eccentric. Someone who needs the ENFJ’s time and attention, who will appreciate their daily positivity and who will brighten their day in return.
Once in a relationship, ENFJs are very interested in their partner and who they really are. Know their partner’s emotional needs so that they can take care of them like no one has ever done before. Embrace their partner’s differences, encourage them, and help them to make a difference in the world according to what they believe in. So supportive they might forget to support themselves. If their partner support them back, they’ll have a healthy and lasting relationship.
Sources : Birdy, Personalitypage
Slow to share with you the depth of their principles and beliefs, but they will do so once you have gained their trust. Demonstrate not only acceptance, but also a genuine interest in your core values, and they will demonstrate unwavering loyalty, care and open mindedness to you with unprecedented sensitivity and warmth to make their dreams of a perfect relationship come true.